Second Difficult Bitch Salon
Another live gathering for women, femmes, and thems who read the essay and want to sit with what it opened, in community.
I am delighted to share that the first Difficult Bitch Salon sold out.
And after holding that room, I understand even more clearly why the comment thread on the essay felt like a room trying to form.
One of the clearest things people named in the first gathering was the loneliness of trying to untangle these patterns without a place to speak them out loud.
The old training to be easy, agreeable, understanding, accommodating, and endlessly available does not only live in our ideas. It lives in our bodies, relationships, histories, families, workplaces, friendships, dating lives, and the small moments where we begin to doubt ourselves for knowing what we know.
In the first salon, we sat with the essay together. People shared what it brought into view, where the word “difficult” still had a charge, what parts of the piece lit them up, and what it has cost them to stay palatable.
It was tender, sharp, funny, honest, and deeply alive.
So I’m hosting another room for this conversation.
I’m facilitating a second Difficult Bitch Salon for women, femmes, and thems impacted by misogyny who read the essay and want a place to sit with it together. This is an affinity space to process, reflect, ask questions, be witnessed, and stay with what the piece opened around internalized patriarchy, self-trust, relational labor, and the strange, charged freedom of stepping out of the script that trained us to be easy, agreeable, and nice.
This salon is for subscribers only, both free and paid, and I’m keeping it small again so everyone has a chance to share and be witnessed.
Date: May 15, 2026
Time: 10:00am-11:30am PDT
Location: Zoom
Cost: $45 plus fees
Recording: This will not be recorded.
You can register here: Difficult Bitch Salon
Incase you haven’t read Difficult Bitch yet, start here:
What to Expect
We’ll start by landing together, briefly introducing ourselves, and then move into guided reflection and live conversation, facilitated by me.
If you’re wondering what to bring into the room, you might sit with:
What did the piece bring into view about your own life, relationships, body, or history?
What parts of the essay felt hard to stay with?
What parts caught fire for you?
Where did the word “difficult” land in your body?
Where have you learned to make yourself easier to be in relationship with?
What does it cost you to be easy, agreeable, and/or nice?
You do not need to arrive polished. Bring yourself and whatever the piece opened. If you missed the first salon or couldn’t get a seat, this is the second room. Come sit with other difficult bitches.
Hope to see you there.
In solidarity,
Alexandra Winteraven 🖤